The Tomorrow Project

The Tomorrow Project || Finding Community

Since I’ve become a mother, my life has completely changed.
My demeanor has changed.
My friends have changed.
My relationship with my family has changed.

I love the changes!

Of all these changes, the most important has been the change in friends. I’ve become closer to other moms. Especially my “mommy group.” We all were due in October. We went through our entire pregnancies together. We are watching our babies grow up together. These women help keep me sane! I wish we had all lived closer together. Our conversations range from hilarious to serious. We’ve helped each other through problems. We’ve talked each other off the ledge. These ladies are seriously my best friends! They have helped motherhood be even easier than I ever imagined it could be. I am so grateful for having these women in my life. This community…this mommy club…it is amazing! I love you ladies!

To those who say that online friends are not real friends, you are sorely mistaken and you are missing out on a lot!

Work

I just can’t with people.

All the time I hear, “you rely on tips for your salary? You need a new job.”

 

I’m so sick of that and similar comments. At least I HAVE a job.

 

I know that being a waitress is not a glamorous job, and I know that being a waitress is not anyone’s first choice of job.

But at least I have one.

 

That is much more than many can say.

 

I bust my ass at work in order to make money. I have to work harder than most people I know. It’s not the cushy desk job that I want. That is what I am in college for. That’s right, I am actually in college. I’m not a high school dropout like most of the people suggest.  I’m working my way through college. I have bills that I pay.

People think servers make SO MUCH money. That is not always the case. If it is slow, we don’t make that much money. When it is busy, we still sometimes don’t make that much money. In this state servers make $2.13 an hour. Sometimes more but that is rare.

 

When someone doesn’t tip because they “don’t get tipped to do [their] job” all I can do it get angry. I mean it is a different field than theirs, I’m sure. It is not the same.

 

I work really hard to make sure your orders are correct, that your drinks are filled, that you have napkins, ketchup, hot sauce, whatever you need. Is it really that hard to just say “thank you” sometimes?

Also, you should tip for togo as well. I don’t see you back there bagging your own food.

 

Also, WE DON’T SPIT IN YOUR FOOD…even if you ARE a raging bitch. That movie “Waiting” is not real!

 

And really, if all waiters and waitresses got a new job like these arrogant assholes suggest, there would be no one to take care of you when you go out to eat.

 

I’m sorry this is so jumbled. Clearly something was bothering me and I had to get it off of my chest.

 

 

“Refusing to tip because you disagree with the “institution” of tipping, even though your server’s livelihood relies on it? How very principled of you. Way to stick it to the man.”